September 15, 2010

Will You Still Love Me Tomorrow?

Since this is a blog, not a private conversation, I should write this obliquely, come at it sideways so as not to offend. But, no. I will be straightforward, reckless.

We all love Papa. Remember his birthday? The videos, the written histories, the love that was expressed to him. Did he forget?

I am filled with hot, angry tears. What happened? When did my father turn into someone I don't know?

I am filled with guilt that I have been absent for so many years. That daddy probably doesn't even remember who I am. Even when I wasn't there, I knew he was.

I am filled with confusion that someone could make my dad distrust and dislike his own children.
I am filled with worry that I should even post this.

It is said that you live life forward, but understand it backward. Does he understand?

He has spent his life building, repairing, fixing what was broken.

Can this be fixed?

I'm going to post this quick. Before I loose my nerve. Because it is so. And because I wasn't there to help.

(Because I am weak, I reserve the right to remove this at the first twinge of guilt.)

Addendum: Look what has been stolen. Our family, our bond, our parental love, all taken from us by a manipulator and a thief. For 65 years he has been ours. We have loved all of him. Even the cranky part. (Which has been passed on to us as our birthright.)

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11 comments:

Suz said...

Okay my religious relatives .....are we witnessing the 'unrighteous dominion' that the Scriptures warn us about? It is devastating to see one who was a strong and reasonable example to me my whole life abused and manipulated over money. That woman is gonna have to answer for a lot.

Beautifully written Marilee. I am so sorry you are so far away.

PS -papa hasn't known who I am for months maybe years. I know he never really liked me much but I'd hoped he'd remember I make a good sandwich:)

Meghan said...

this makes every part of me sad. last night i resolved to drive to st. george to collect what was rightfully mine... my papa. and then i knew better. but it makes me so angry that i want to hurt her like she is hurting us.

how will this end?

Trish and John said...

I have no idea what is happening but I am sad and angry that Papa is being taken away from his family...all of us. We love you papa, even those of us who are not there often and hope for our children to grow up loving the Papa, the great and strong man, the head of our great family, that we grew up loving.

Grandma Cheryl said...

Profound and sadly, so true. Thanks for the eloquent words - you've expressed my feelings beautifully.
Miss you Mar

Jolene said...

I'm done - emotionally wiped out. Sad about his choice, but it was his choice. Amazing how you can leave 89 people who love you for 1 who manipulates you and leaves when it suits her. Poor old man, is he even understanding what is going on.

Marilee said...

Jo, if he does understand, that makes it even worse. A bitter betrayal

Anonymous said...

This whole thing Breaks my heart! I am sad about his choice and will miss him dearly!

The Whitney's said...

This makes me sad! I'm going to miss papa and and even more sad that he won't see Cambree grow up and she won't have a chance to know him. I can't believe all the false things that woman told him. Are they living in St. George? I'm going down in October maybe I can bring him back. Miss you papa!

Jolene said...

They are going to Phoenix to live with her daughter, exactly what he didn't want to do.

Anonymous said...

I am really sorry for the events of the past two weeks. I learned of them in an offhand manner. But, one thing, you should know: You did everything in your power to let him know he was loved and that even when he was cranky, he was loved.
I have noticed with my mom (when she is ill, not when she is well), that she recognizes us and loves us and remembers us, but an hour later, won't remember she talked to us. Fortunately for her, there is not some opportunistic PERSON who is playing on her sympathies.

I know how much your parents meant to you, cuz they meant that much to me as well. I looked at them as my other parents and you as my siblings.

Slats is not in his right mind and will hopefully be judged by the person he was , not the person he was manipulated into becoming.

He still loves you, he just has this evil entity telling him otherwise.

Hold fast together and be the family Marion wanted you to be.
I love you so much more than you will ever know and will always be there for you.

I truly love you all forever, Jill

Anonymous said...

PS, original comment was really restrained...I had to really be careful of my language in referring to demonic interferences!
Jill again